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Yes! FIL is passive and kind of goofy just wants to spend time with the kids. He was actually so nice during the visit. Always asked if he could hold DD and wasn't pushy and would just be silly trying to get her to smile. MIL tried once to remove her from my arms without asking or warning and I had to say please stop. And whenever she was holding DD she would say weird crap like you're my baby girl, grandma loves you the most, you're my special girl..it made me so uncomfortable..

Ugh same MIL says family is everything but I know she hates me .not one single photo of me in their home. Married for 10 years together for 13. [/quote]

Now while I agree with you about the advice MIL gives the things she’s saying to the baby are normal and shouldn’t bother you. You’re probably heightened because of everything else going on. Been there, done that.[/quote]

Thank you for saying that. TO be fair I didn't grow up with grandparents. So this is foreign to me. Grandpa says things like your gramps boy to my nephew and it doesn't feel the same. I think it's the intention behind MIL words. It also kind of feels like love bombing. She doesn't want anything to do with baby unless it's in her terms and she can be saying that stuff and DD looking at her but DD is a busy body now and wants to get on with playing..it's also all day not a one off comment. It started rubbing me the wrong way when each time I let her hold DD she would immediately start with grandma loves you the most, you're grandma's girl. You're my little baby. It's the you're mine that sends me seeing red. [/quote]

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