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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For those of you firmly in the "nature" camp, how do you not throw your hands up in the air on all the hard stuff, like helping a kid who struggles with executive functioning skills get through their homework or helping another kid with no athletic talent try to find a somewhat enjoyable sport?  Why am I working so hard to save for college, shuttle kids to activities, pay for musical instruments, etc?  Why not just focus on my hobbies and let the chips fall with the kids? [/quote]

I am 17:03. No, I do not throw my hands up.  I use my type-A personality to tutor my kids, get them good outside tutors, we did all the special camps, classes, no TV before 5 years old, etc. In the end, none of it mattered too much - my kids are college/late HS now. I mean I guess I do not know what the outcome would have been with all my hard work to support the kids, but my nurture barely moved the needle.  I know I would have regretted not trying though.[/quote]

You said your kids have average IQs and don’t do well in school.   It’s not their IQs that’s in their way.   Honor rolls and colleges are made up of kids with average IQs.   Did you try and push them into AP classes or other classes instead of the ones that were best for them?   Plus you weren’t the only one contributing to their DNA so why would you assume they would be just like you?   DNA and how it’s distributed is still not all figured out.   [/quote]

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