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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For those of you firmly in the "nature" camp, how do you not throw your hands up in the air on all the hard stuff, like helping a kid who struggles with executive functioning skills get through their homework or helping another kid with no athletic talent try to find a somewhat enjoyable sport?  Why am I working so hard to save for college, shuttle kids to activities, pay for musical instruments, etc?  Why not just focus on my hobbies and let the chips fall with the kids? [/quote]

There's a difference between helping someone develop habits and give someone tools to use.  I often say that people confuse the nature and nurture debate.

I'm the pp with a dysfunction childhood.  I have a kid who has learning disabilities.  You bet I'm gonna give him tutoring to help him academically succeed as much as possible.  However, I can only provide the skills and opportunity, he has to accept them.  Providing is nurture.  Your choices is nature.

I am going to provide as much as possible always for those who I parent, manage at work, etc.  but that's where nurture stops.  Nature is about ability and desire.  That's something you can't change.  You can develop talent, you can't create talent.

As someone who believes in nature over nurture, the above illustrates what that looks like. [/quote]

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