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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He is 8. I assume this is rec and not a team he tried out for. The whole point of rec is that anyone who signs up can play. If his coach or teammates insinuate or outright tell him he is dragging them down, it’s not a good team for you.

I have one kid who has logged many seasons as the worst kid on a rec baseball team and yet his friends still want him to sign up and play. It is hard as a parent to watch your kid struggle, but no parent is watching my kid as much as I am. My kid does not care - so any angst I have about him being the “worst” kid is all mine.

My other kid recently started “travel lite” soccer and he is one of the weaker players. His technical skills are good, but he is not aggressive in game situations and he is very self conscious about being the youngest kid on the team because of his birthday. That kid is harder because he cares and he wants to be good, but instead of being motivated to “keep up”, he shuts down and feels embarrassed. I feel like I am a part time sports psychologist with him. [/quote]

And for your kid - he is 8. You DO NOT throw in the towel on sports. This is just one of many things your kid will encounter in life where they are not naturally talented or immediately a top performer. Working through those emotions is important.

We listen to what our kids say, but we also pay attention to what they are telling us with their actions and body language. If your son is putting in the work, participating in practice, going to practice and games willingly - I would support him. We didn’t “pull the plug” on baseball for 5 seasons until we had 1 full season where we were dragging him to practice, reminding him to do his drills, and basically doing all the work for him. As long as he was putting in effort, we supported him. [/quote]

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