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Do not judge what you don't know.

There is a cluster of mental illness genes in my husband's family. My adult nephew attempted suicide several times; he is heavily medicated for depression and anxiety and has severe sleep issues. He cannot work and is supported by his father.

My adult son has severe ADHD, anxiety and high-functioning autism. He is successful in college but he only does coursework. No friends, no hobbies, no part-time job (except in the summer). He cannot multitask. He would NOT do well with the responsibilities of a family. If he marries and has children, he would need to outsource literally everything.

My son is lucky in the sense that I am a geneticist and was able to identify his needs early; seek cognitive behavioral therapy, pharmacological treatments, as well as academic and practical life accommodations for him. He made it to college because his entire childhood was dedicated to bolstering his weaknesses and affirming his strengths.

Do not presume to know the depths of other people's mental issues. Some are severe, and are compounded by parental lack of knowledge in the early years when early intervention is key, and consistency thereafter when adolescence shifts the entire frame work of treatment.

It took parents who are professionals in their field, plus a team of paid professionals, for my son to be barely functional: me (geneticist), my husband (doctor), a group of therapists and psychiatrists, as well as well-intentioned and/or experienced school counselors. If there hadn't been that level of support, *despite his own best efforts*, he'd be a dropout in the basement playing video games.

Compassion is key.

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Thank you, pp. This is one of the best posts I have read on DCUM, having been on over a decade. I also have a FTL brother and he did not have the resources your son did and is a dropout who lived at home all his 55 years. [/quote]

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