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[quote=Anonymous]It depends how much you love him and enjoy being around him. It also depends on how much the income imbalance is and whether you can live where you want on 1 income.

My parents and my in-laws have both been married 50+ years. We come from low/no divorce families. And yet, I have seen friends in your scenario divorce and absolutely thrive after they get through the first 1-2 years of adjustment. For my friends who divorced men who did nearly 0 parenting and household tasks, the hardest part has been yardwork and landscaping because it takes time and they couldn’t pay to contract it out on 1 income. They were already cleaning the house, making dinner, etc. For them, a townhouse instead of a SFH made sense.

Your kids are young. As they get older it will be harder and harder to imagine moving schools, changing friends. You have a whole life ahead of you. You can divorce now and still remarry and be with that person for 25+ years. If you stay and think “next year will ne better”, you may have 8-10 years lost in a haze of resentment and treading water.

If you aren’t sure, spend the next 6-12 months preparing yourself financially and researching the process in your state. Invest in your friendships so you have a safety net. Interview lawyers. [/quote]

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