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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There isn’t one in the near-term.  Women’s desire to marry “up” is basically biologically hard-wired, our academic systems result in more women than men going to college, which has downstream effects on professional success.  Solve for the equilibrium.

This will continue until it can’t anymore, but there is long runway for this continued dynamic.  Eventually this results in sub-replacement fertility, and ultimately replacement by populations with more traditional sex roles and thus higher fertility rates.  The future belongs to those who show up.  At least until AI makes all humans obsolete, with unpredictable outcomes.  That said, it’s never been a better time to be a successful man, one’s choices are endless.[/quote]

People want sex and children. They will figure it out. Smart women will find the right puzzle piece male and have kids, even if he’s a public school teacher to her VP.

I’m amused by the quote that men are happiest when women earn 40% of income — for most of human history I’m pretty sure women were almost never happy. Look at the Valium soaked 50s housewife, with labor saving devices, high earning stable husbands but still miserable. [/quote]

I completely agree. Men just have to deal and adapt, maybe develop other skills such as cooking, chores and making a home/running a household.[/quote]

The adaptation has already started.  As a higher earning GenX woman, there still is some feelings work to be done.

Be careful what books you read to your girls/let them read.  And movies.  I went in with eyes wide open as a child of the 1970s but still sometimes wish that my Prince Charming would do the financial planning, the plumbing repairs, and the phone plan price negotiation.

I'm looking forward to be a babysitting grandma so my DILs can thrive in their careers.  I've saved a few fairytale books about being the man having to be the worthy spouse.  One is "A Weave of Words" and the other is "The King's Equal".

On a slightly different note, it's possible that with more female politicians, it could get easier to be a single working mom in the US.  There were times in Soviet Russia when that worked pretty well despite what has been a long term shortage of men (starting with WW2 losses).[/quote]

DH here. I was absolutely influenced by a gift book I got about how girls can do anything boys can do. I still recall it 30 years later — but can’t find it or its title. It was an earth toned minimalist illustrations from the 70s. [/quote]

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