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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think my concern is just what the immediate PP suggested - he's so young, and close family (including my dinosaur-enabling mother) kept saying, "He'll change his mind! This is just a phase!" So DH and I treated it like a phase, but now I'm not so sure. [/quote]

There must be more going on.  What about the passion worries you?  You don’t have to share what it is.   But something else must be bothering you.  Example:  He is into drag queens and drag queen culture.   So you’re worried he will face discrimination and homophobia for his interest. Just spit out what you’re really worried about.[/quote]

I really do just feel silly spending so much time and money on something he won't be into in five years. Like, I don't want to be one of those mothers shoving a violin at their two-year-old. It seems overbearing, and that's not how I am.[/quote]

Ok, I'll be blunt. I've never verbalized it before. The problem is that it IS something I would be proud of him for accomplishing, and I think focusing so much on it might leave me disappointed when it invariably doesn't pan out.[/quote]

Now I'm picturing it's something like he wants to be a Broadway star or something even more absurdly impossible like an NBA star although I think if it was so generic like the latter you'd just share what it is.

You let him have his dreams and support him and separate yourself from it.  Kids realize on their own at some point they are not really going to make it on Broadway or be LeBron.  Our role is not to point that out to them.  Our role is to support their efforts and see where it takes them.[/quote]

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