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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a woman but also grew up in a family that teased each other all the time. We weren't a serious family. A lot of giving each other a hard time and sarcastic and witty comments. SInce we grew up with it, we knew how to give and take and we knew it was all in good fun.

I actually didn't realize while growing up that people who grow up in serious homes without a lot of humor would find it mean and offensive. When I was 17 or 18, someone told me I was mean after I joked with them and it caught me off guard. I asked them more about why they thought I was mean and we have a great conversation about it. I made adjustments after that and changed. My close friends tend to be those who can joke and laugh at themselves and others and I wouldn't have married someone who didn't get it either but if it isn't someone in my close circle, I am very careful what I say and I don't joke with them.

But it would be extremely hard for me if my husband only wanted serious conversations with no wit or humour or joking around. I wouldn't be able to be in that kind of marriage (but I wouldn't have married a serious person who doesn't joke or who is offended by joking). [/quote]

Do you really think that people who don't want to be ribbed, roasted, and teased "grew up in serious homes without a lot of humor" and that they "only want serious conversations with no wit or humor"?

You don't understand the difference between shared, mutually fun humor and jokes, and unwelcome teasing that's [i]aimed[/i] at another person, PP.

I'm glad to read that you actually listened to the person who called you out on being mean and you adjusted your behavior, but you still seem confidently judgemental about others who don't find ribbing funny like you were raised to do. People can have plenty of humor but still not want to be ribbed, which is pretty much a form of attack humor that's based on being negative about the other person, usually defended by the insistence "but it's only in fun!"

Not everyone who doesn't roast others, or like being roasted, is a "serious person" without any sense of humor. But you sure do assume that above.[/quote]

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