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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Looking for advice on whether to "settle" or try to see if I can find a better match.

I'm a woman in my mid 50s, with grown children. I was widowed in my mid 40s and began dating again at 50. I've been in a relationship with someone for four years now with a man a few years older than me, and we started living together three years ago. Our relationship started out strong but over time has weakened.  Hes nice, funny, and loyal, but [b]he doesn't offer much in terms of emotional connection.[/b] On weekends he likes to watch sports and he spends a lot of time on the couch doing that. I like talking about books and current events and he's not into that. We have fun together but it's superficial.

Our relationship is pleasant but he's not the soulmate that I hoped to spend the rest of my life with.  I think a lot about the deep conversations and talking for hours that I had with my late husband, and I wonder if I could find that again.

If I were i younger, I think I could have a chance of finding that. But in my mid 50s, the dating pool is very small and the options are so limited. The men I know in this age group who are single have major baggage or issues.

Is the wise decision to give up on the soulmate idea and be happy with a so-so relationship that is more about easy companionship than deep connection?  Or risk trying to find that and potentially lose a "good enough" relationship? [/quote]

At any age this is a challenge for women. Emotionally fulfilling a woman is not always easy for most of us men. Some do succeed but let's be honest and frank the vast majority of men fail. I am sure the outliers will jump up and down and say oh my DH is soooooo emotionally supportive. Well good for you. It's just a fact it's not always easy for us to emotionally connect with women in ways that they are very satisfied with our efforts. [/quote]

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