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[quote=Anonymous]I hate admitting there is something to this but: there is something to this.

Early in my career when I was hungry for opportunities and development, I actively sought out mentorship from the women above me who I admired and wanted to work more with. And they were not kind. I wound up with two encouraging work mentors early on and they were both men even thought I 100% sought to find a female mentor. The women were not interested in my development at all and one of them was openly hostile to me and used to gossip about me to other women in the office. So the stereotype fully come to life.

As I've advanced in my career and taken a few left turns, I have found more women who are great to work with and I've seen women leaders who can be terrific. I've also seen some who are, again, the stereotypical nightmare (gossipy, cliquish, jealous of other women and way more likely to promote and listen to men, etc.). I think once you get to the age where people are having kids it can get complicated because women (weirdly!) rarely have each other's backs on that front. I left a job after I had a baby specifically because my director, who was a woman, was so unaccommodating during that process and so clearly resenting me taking my leave or asking for small scheduling flexiblity to accommodate my daycare schedule.

I now run my own business and I try to be the opposite of this. I have taken on mentees and I allow a lot of flexiblity and also select clients based in part on how friendly they are to women and how much they promote women. But I can definitely say that I have been deeply disappointed to discover that a lot of the stereotypes about women in leadership roles are true when it comes to how they treat other women.[/quote]

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