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[quote=Anonymous]I don't have daddy issues..at least I didn't used to. Early onset goes quickly so hearing that you have to sacrifice for a few years..goes nowhere with me...and nowhere with our siblings. If OP wanted companionship he could do so privately but seems like he wants to wear the badge of caring husband while dating..can't do both..sorry you can't. I am thinking you don't want to divorce as that could put your assets in question..cold reality and again..want to look like a great guy--kind of goes hand in hand with having to have a woman right away..very narrcissistic.. Early onset is sooo tough and family dynamics are at play. If this is a situation where kids are not close to mom and there aren't grandchildren involved then it could be different. Maybe his kids didn't love mom as much as our family did and yes we are very involved with are with mom.  Our family was a close one..when mom got sick..dad couldn't handle it so started a relationship--very confusing to all of us and our kids. With a new relationships comes dealing with the other person's "stuff."  It has been a nightmare and I think many of the people who have been "cheering" the OP on..haven't been through this. It is awful and it has forever changed how I feel about my dad. My husband is also disgusted..he took care of his father for many many years as did his mom and he couldn't believe how quickly my  dad needed a new lady. Again..for the uninitiatd..early onset is quicker than later alzheimers--usually early onsets goes within a few years..later alzheimers can go on and on for sometimes decades and starts out with mild cognitive decline..the end stages for both forms many times do need hospice care..but again..just because someone is dying doesn't mean it's party time. As for companionship..you can always have friends.. Apparently OP needs some sex and the ability to go out and about and feel good about himself. I am not going to give him that. The fact that he was asking means deep down he knows this is wrong. It is wrong. Again..this is an awful awful disease..it really is but I feel like how you handle this really decides what kind of person you are..it really cuts out the excess baggage. Sad but true. But the way OP I am not an SOB...I have stepped up to the plate and will continue--my dad..does his check in and writes a check but as his relationship deepens..less time with mom. Very sad for a couple who was happily married..for 40 years.[/quote]

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