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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m not trying to be judgmental, just trying to understand.

I wasn’t even the breadwinner, but immediately I found a one bedroom and made it work, just to maintain my independence. I was already used to paying part of a mortgage, and my rent was equivalent to my contribution to our mortgage. It was just a no-brainer. I maintained my personal routine, private life, and independence, just in a smaller space. But it was my OWN space.

I have a friend who has moved back in to her parent’s tiny three-bedroom bungalow with her parents. She brought her two kids. I can’t imagine how cramped it must be. More importantly, I can’t imagine trying to raise my kids with my parents underfoot. No privacy. Etc.

I have another friend who moved back in years ago, makes a damn good living, and still hasn’t moved out on her own again.

[b]Do I just value my independence more[/b]? [/quote]

Yeah, you do.

Easy answer.

I'm not divorced, I'm happily married. But if I lived in the same town as my parents and found myself divorced, for sure I would be happy to move in with them. I get along great with them.  My son adores them and would love the company. It would make the whole thing more bearable.  I have an older neighbor I was chatting with who was telling me how here husband passed away 10 years ago, and then her daughter divorced and moved in with her and brought her 2 teenage sons, and my neighbor was telling me how they all loved the arrangement, it was supposed to be for 6 months but they had been there for three years and none of them wanted to end things.  Not sure why it would be hard to understand why someone would want to move in with their parents; esp when so many women consider their mothers their best friends. [/quote]

It’s incredibly disruptive to children and the grandparents can help with childcare and lend some emotional support. And everyone is in a different place financially.

Ideally, most people with children want to get divorced and buy another house down the street and have everything stay the same for the kids and financially. But that’s rarely possible. Sacrifices are usually inevitable. Most people, most parents, are just trying to get through it.

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