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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A new place isn’t necessarily going to take someone with moderate or severe dementia, especially if the person has behavioral issues, so the place you move her may be the place you are stuck with long-term. I wouldn’t count on finding a cheaper place later. A lot of places are open to taking someone in the early stages of the disease and moving them into memory care later, but will not accept directly into memory care.[/quote]

This is a very important point. The earlier she moves, the easier it will be for her to adjust. We moved my FIL into an assisted living memory care floor when he had moderate dementia and he had a very hard time because he didn't understand what was going on and had lost many basic living skills. [/quote]

THIS!! Also, family members can go into denial about level of need. My mother (much younger than Dad) would not put him in a residential setting despite the fact she could not cope with him even with him going to adult daycare and having caregivers when he is home. She was losing it and we begged her to put him in residential before it was too late. She waited too long and dumbfounded no place would take him because his needs were too great even with a personal aide. She insisted he wasn't at nursing home level when he was and got rejection after rejection. Meanwhile a friend of his went to residential early on when the family saw his spouse was struggling. He is at a lovely memory care (started in assisted living) and while pretty far gone, he still enjoys the activities there and he enjoys their visits, even though he's not sure who they are.[/quote]

+1  I have hired a senior care manager (in another region or i'd recommend her)  near my parents to help navigate this kind of transition. She pointed out that its best to go to a continuing care facility while the senior still has assets, that the good facilities will agree to take them. If we spend down all their assets on home care first, then they won't be as able to get into a good facility, is what she told me.  [/quote]

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