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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I are both 41. I have a 15 year old from a previous relationship, he doesn’t have children. He thinks he will regret it later in life if we don’t have one. I thought i was done with ine child, always wanted more but went through a divorce and then didnt meet current dh til 2 years ago. Im open to the idea but scared of what this would mean. One not even sure i can conceive at this age, but let’s say i could: a baby in your 40’s is really hard, i love my current flexibility, traveling when we can and freedom when our teen finishes highschool in 2 years. This would be a complete change and though i would also be sad for dh if he never gets to be a dad, i want a reality check and understand pros/cons or anyone who’se done this [/quote]

You should not have married until you discussed this in depth.  If you didn't want another child and he wants one, then you should have let him go.  Honestly.  What happens if you can't have a child?

Make sure you want one not just to make DH happy.  It is not good if you get pregnant to make someone else happy.  It doesn't work.

You also are different from others who didn't have kids in their 20s and 30s.  You did, so think hard about having another 18 years.  [/quote]

We did talk about it before marriage and he was okay not having kids. This has changed recently where he started thinking that he’d miss out if he doesn’t even try having one, which opened the conversation again. If we can’t have kids together, he will be at peace with that decision if he knows we tried and it didn’t happen. [/quote]

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