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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I explained that Mom could likely afford all this herself. 
I explained that we should look for a place a little cheaper than where sister lives. 
I said I'd visit as much as I can to help out. [/quote]

Well, it sounds like that's maybe a short term plan but is it really a long term plan to have her living far from both daughters? Do you truly understand how hard it is for an older person to move, and how hard this could make things in a crisis? I think your sister has her eye on the long term and you're thinking short and medium term. And remember, moving is expensive. And a giant hassle for the adult children. Stop thinking so much about money, think about time and hassle.

"As much as I can" is squishy and unlikely to satisfy her. Can you commit to monthly?[/quote]

My husband and I (and our kids) can commit to helping her move. 
I can commit to visiting her twice yearly in her remote area (she only lives there 5 months a year)
And I can go monthly to Arizona. [/quote]

And what can you do when monthly isn't enough? Because that's what happens--best case scenario. They get old![/quote]

I don't know. That's why sister wants her to move near her. [/quote]

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