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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To all those shouting that it’s a parenting problem I would note that some children are MUCH more difficult/demanding/bossy than others. He wanted a toy from Target that mom wouldn’t buy. So, she doesn’t give him everything, but he’s asking for it! Some children are like that. (Yes, we can help them improve.)[/quote]

It's true. Some kids are just demanding and parenting them requires you to say no A LOT plus teach them to manage their disappointment when you do. It's hard work and not for the faint of heart.

Though I actually think the OP is a troll because she says the kid is 4. That's a tough age! I suppose OP might have randomly gotten a couple kids who weren't this difficult at 4 but I feel like it's 50-50 at that age in terms of easy-going versus difficult. It's a peek time for testing boundaries. So I just have a hard time believing a mom if multiple older kids would really have no experience with this kind of behavior.

I would also assume a kid that age would have a difficult time being away from his parents and that can bring out rigid, controlling behavior in kids. OP doesn't mention that he's like this when his parents are around. Even a generally easy 4 yo could act like this if stressed and scared. It's really young.[/quote]

It’s one thing when it’s your own kid. Yes I’m well aware that it’s one of the most difficult ages. But my kids were never like that in any other environment except at home with us. They were angels everywhere else. They definitely tested us at home. But at their relatives? Apart from being a little rambunctious, they did not. Nor were they demanding, bossy, or beating up other kids.

Also he’s not stressed and scared. He  begged to stay with us and wants to stay with us longer. In fact he’s just a bit too comfortable with us, if you ask me! [/quote]

Did your kids ever spend an entire week away from you at age 4? Sorry but that's an unusual amount of time for a kid that age and no matter what he says about wanting to do it, he's going to have separation anxiety and stress.

My kid used to beg to spend the night at grandparents house at age 4 or 5. But when we tried she'd really struggle-- it sounded great to her but the reality was scary and hard. It didn't feel totally comfortable until she was a bit older.[/quote]

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