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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not sure if this is the right forum but my best friends parent just passed very suddenly and I’m seeking advice.

She is on her way into town. Of course I will physically accompany her, but what are some [b]material things[/b] you wish you had or found comfort in immediately after parents passing? I would like to bring things too. Will prepare food. Thank you. 
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My mother passed a couple of months ago.  "Material things" other than food would not have helped...I actually had to start a process of getting rid of a lot of things so adding to it is working backwards.  Things that did help:

* Food so I didn't have to figure out what I would eat
* Sharing a glass of wine or some alcohol with my friend and just talking...happy conversations and sad
* Not saying "let me know if you need help with anything." This is an empty gesture.  Figure out something that could be done whether it's getting quotes from junk removal, contacting a church/pastor about funeral planning, providing a list of things that need to be done and handling the tasks (forwarding mail, putting together a schedule for when bills are due, arranging to get grass cut, etc.)
* The biggest thing though was just being present.  I had a friend that would just stop by to check on me.  I normally hate people popping by unannounced, but it was always perfectly timed.  [/quote]

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