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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A family member who lives in Europe has a wedding scheduled for a week after a school break. By this, I mean that the break happens, kid is supposed to be back in school for a week, and then the wedding is the following weekend.

My kid is in mid-elementary school and not the easiest going child out there. I’m getting a lot of family pressure to go to the wedding, but it just feels like it will be a disaster because I don’t want to take my kid out of school long enough for them to get used to the time change. I’m getting a lot of pressure from my parents to go, but they want to turn it into a family vacation despite the fact that I’m not really interested in taking my kid out of school for an entire week after their break.

WWYD? Take the kid out of school for multiple days after break or not go at all?[/quote]

As a fellow person with family in the Old Country who can be a little, ahem, ignorant of the lack of vacation days in the US, let me tell you the tale of two weddings:

Larlatte scheduled a wedding at a time convenient for everyone and actually asked family members about dates. We went, it was great, amazing turn-out, Larlatte and spouse are still close, the cousins they produced are close to our kids, etc.

Larlo, on the other hand, scheduled their wedding without consulting anyone about the date, in a remote village, when we had a five month old baby, the weekend before april 15 when we're both accountants.* We declined the invite to that wedding and the end result has been Larlo talks s*& about us any chance they can get, saying we don't care about family. But when they came to the US on vacation, they didn't even bother to tell us, and when we offered to meet up with them (traveling up to NYC from DC) they declined saying they had too many activities planned like one of those &quot;dangle your foot over the edge of the helicopter for the 'Gram&quot; tours&quot; and couldn't bother to meet for a coffee.

The moral of the story is, do what is best for your family, if they are normal, nice ppl, like Larlette, they wont' care and if they aren't normal( a real Larlo), well good to know that now.

*details changed to protect privacy, don't come at me accountants and tell me april 15 is a meaningless date in the world of professional tax-doing, the imp. thing was it was an extremely difficult time to get off work and&lt; i mean, our baby was 5 months old!![/quote]

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