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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Am surprised by all the women saying it's more important to them.

Woman here, with an active s-x life in my 25 year marriage.  Every woman I know is totally indifferent to sex in their marriage by mid 40s. Or if we think it is important, it is important only because our husbands think it is important - and we love our husbands so want to maintain that closeness with them through s-x.  That is, if my DH thought watching netflix nightly was an important part of staying emotionally close, I would put a high priority on watching netflix nightly and would take pleasure from it because it keeps us close. Even if i don't have a personal desire to watch netflix.  If our DHs decided tomorrow that they were all happy having s-x just once or twice a year, I don't know any women who would care.

I think the women responding and saying it is more important for women.... are likely in dead marriages and want to point to s-x as the problem when it's likely something else.   [/quote]

Good insights and thanks for sharing. [b]I get the impression though at least on this forum women tend to desire more sex[/b] and are more vocal about it particularly when they get into their 40s. It seems to me biologically women get hornier than men as they age which is horrible for men timing wise as most men are older by their spouses by at least couple of years and are likely to peak soon. And further stress has a massive negative impact on a man's libido more so than a woman.[/quote]

But that was my point about women saying that s_x is important..... are likely in dead marriages and blaming the s_x, when in reality it's something else.

In other words, the only women who are saying s_x is important are women on this forum who aren't having any.  But the women I know who are having it multiple times a week would all be fine with much less or without. They are not the ones driving that frequency in their marriages.  Their husbands are.  None of these women are saying "I am super into s-x, my DH less than me, but i keep pushing him because it's never enough."  However, our husbands would all say that.

From there, it does not make sense that all high drive women suddenly find themselves in s-xless marriages.  So the women in s-xless marriages (and on this forum) complaining about the lack of s-x in their marriages likely have way bigger problems in their marriages, and the s-x is just a symptom.  But it's feels better to blame it on the s-x.  [/quote]

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