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[quote=Anonymous]I find the endless complaining and utter self centeredness exhausting. I do all financial, medical and practical things for my mom, who is in assisted living nearby and has extra help simply to cater to her (take her out, tidy her room, etc)  and all she does is complain that she is bored , so alone, in so mich emotional a pain,  and that I have no time for her (I work full time and have a 12 and 14 year old who have activities every night so weekends and doctor appts are when I can see her). She goes on 1-2 outings a week plus we take her out every weekend, and she’s in a facility filled with other older adults and staff who cater to her and she has absolutely no responsibilities (bills cooking cleaning making appts etc) and yet she calls me to tell me her life is pure misery, no one is in as much emotional pain as she is. She’s always been somewhat like this but with the dementia it’s all there is. It is not like I’m sad because I’m missing some motherly relationship I once had ; I’m just sad I never had it and exhausted from the constant calls and demands (sometimes she calls 6-7 times a day). She has never been able to see me apart from herself, and now it’s like I only exist to listen to her go off on how terrible her life is. [/quote]

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