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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I assume this is happening because they don't mention the plan until after the other kid's parents have left? If they get together at your house and then decide to go to Sbux or lunch, as they're leaving, you can say "you'll need about $5-10, does everyone have that?" When a kid/a few kids say no, you can say "sorry - you guys will have to plan on lunch next time then." Thus clarifying that you/your kid aren't treating. You can still tell them they're welcome to go walk around downtown and can plan on getting lunch/coffee next time. If that happens once or twice, the kids will suddenly start planning better and will bring $5-10 with them; if you or your kid start paying, it will become an expectation and you may not want to add an extra weekly $20 to your budget.[/quote]

Honestly, this seems harsh.  If my child has a friend over and they spontaneously decide to run to Starbucks, I'm not going to "punish" the other child for not bringing money, especially if it wasn't part of the original plan.  This just seems petty.  I'm actually surprised so many of you are so punitive.  Either make it clear in advance of the plans, or pick up the slack.  Its not a lot of money.  [/quote]

I guess in this situation I would expect my child spend his own money and to share it with his friend.  So either they could split something, my kid could treat, the other kid could pay my kid back later, or they could just decide to loiter outside the starbucks looking cool and not actually buy anything, but it's for them to negotiate.

Like some of the PPs, I spend little on myself, and if I'm not buying myself lunch or coffee whenever I want it, then I'm not buying it for my kid and friends whenever they want it.[/quote]

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