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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've been outcompeted for jobs by young men for 25 years.  It's always the 30-year old young dads with finance or engineering backgrounds.  They are really good at posturing.  I won't say networking, because they aren't really that social.  I'm wondering whether to give up. I'm considered good at what I do, but not leadership material. I have a Hillary-Clinton-like "something about her" factor which means I'm too smart but nobody is sure what they want to have me work on because I'm not the kind of person they want to hang out with.

The technical part of my company has a 70/30 ratio M/F in most meetings. Lately, in my particular area, which is more business than technical, it's been 90/10.  How is that even possible that it's been getting worse, not better, in a less STEM-my area?  It's psychologically draining.  I make enough money.  But I'm sure I'll be faulted if I stop showing any ambition. Even though[b] I mostly get the mommy jobs of teaching and cleaning up after the youngsters[/b]. Which has to get done.  Ugh.[/quote]

You have to stop doing those types of jobs well. Sometimes, as women, we have to learn to not do everything perfectly and to stop caring about everything. [/quote]

PP.  I hear you.  However, I can't stand weaponized incompetence and I have to earn my keep.  I've reached the "age discrimination zone" and would prefer a salary plateau to a salary drop.  I have specialized corporate knowledge so would be likely to take a big pay cut in the crueler outside world.  Younger women, definitely be aware of cleaning up after your competition!  But also that complaining makes it worse...I tried to navigate out of one of these cleanup assignments before and it was bad for my performance eval.  And this year I got reassigned to it by the only female leader in my org.  Ugh.  I am apparently the only responsible person in the vicinity.

Ironically, I feel like it's the retiring of the Boomers that made my work more sexist.  They didn't develop female leaders in the younger generation and the hard-fought Boomer women leaders retired.  So what we mostly have now are Gen X and Millennial men with tight friendship networks.  They like to promote young up and comer dudes who are comfy office buddies for them. Most of our office get-togethers have a college or pro sports angle now.  It's ridiculous.  This year I actually got #3 in March Madness brackets without knowing anything about basketball.  I copied Obama's brackets from a fundraising e-mail. Lol.[/quote]

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