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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am 47 divorced 2 years. I am very attractive good hobbies great job that I love and most importantly 2 beautiful.kids that I love so much.

However I am broke and this has honestly kept me from dating. Between child support, saving for college, emergency fund and retirement while I am not paycheck to paycheck for most women in the DMV I am sure they won't come anywhere near me. Women dl often say they have their own and don't need yours and I believe them. However it doesn't mean they are open to date a man who is barely making it.

I could be wrong. But I don't even want the discussion to come up so for now I just won't date.[/quote]

Do you foresee any point when you won’t be barely making it? If it’s like this in your late 40s, what would improve?[/quote]

My financial picture since my divorce has certainly improved. However savings for college and retirement do take a big chunk of my paycheck. And I am making that a priority. I understand some men in their 40s are doing better and good for them. I am not one of them. [/quote]

Have you tried side hustle? I'm a foreign born immigrant woman with children. When I hear something like that from men I wonder how even I was able to save a large retirement nest by my mid 40s. Sometimes people would airbnb their homes; CPAs would take extra work etc. When someone US-born without language barrier is close to their 50s didn't achieve same financial milestones as myself, I always wonder if that person is driven enough for me to respect them.[/quote]

College is not cheap. I have $200k so far saved for 2 kids and that's not enough. I have a $800k saved for retirement and that's not enough either. [/quote]

You actually are doing fine. 200k will grow by the time your kids go to college. My child goes to an excellent state engineering program total is about $30k/year after a generous scholarship.  It's up to your kids to study well and get into those getting high GPA and SAT scores. 800k for retirement in mid 40s is fine, too.

You just sound cheap and not willing even to split expenses with any woman[/quote]

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