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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am 47 divorced 2 years. I am very attractive good hobbies great job that I love and most importantly 2 beautiful.kids that I love so much.

However I am broke and this has honestly kept me from dating. Between child support, saving for college, emergency fund and retirement while I am not paycheck to paycheck for most women in the DMV I am sure they won't come anywhere near me. Women dl often say they have their own and don't need yours and I believe them. However it doesn't mean they are open to date a man who is barely making it.

I could be wrong. But I don't even want the discussion to come up so for now I just won't date.[/quote]

FWIW I did not screen for income when dating. I make more than my current partner. He is wonderful and kind and adores my kids. I was looking for something different in a new relationship than my marriage - XH made money but was controlling and demeaning. I found a gentleman in every sense of the word. He works in an idealistic field and is a happy, kind, gentle spirit but has never made much. I make enough for myself and my kids are taken care of between me and XH, so this is exactly the partner I need. [/quote]

How do you go about traveling together and date nights? Are you covering most of it, or you are going camping, no entertainment, eat at home etc? [/quote]

Travel - I don’t travel a lot since I work full time and have young kids. We’ve been on a few short trips so far. Airbnbs. We live in a location that already feels like a vacation (not dmv) and both enjoy the outdoors, so we have gotten cabins.

Food - we go out to eat a couple times a week. Regular places, food ranges from $30-100 a meal for 2. Neither of us is a big drinker so I don’t usually order alcohol. We both prefer to eat healthy and I prioritize local produce so that’s a splurge. The rest is from Costco.

Entertainment - there’s basically none where we live so that’s easy. As I said we’re nature lovers and simple people anyway so the types of things we do are mostly outdoors or local. I don’t think making more $ would change that.

FWIW combined I think we make about $160k. We just moved in together.[/quote]

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