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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, your husband, her son, needs to take the lead here. Not you. But you should not stand in his way when he does come up with a plan. Personally, If I don't enjoy her company, no way I would be giving up half of my Sundays to visit and try to engage her though. If I were your husband, I'd commit to visiting her for dinner once a week (after work).  [/quote]

+1  Your husband needs to step up.  The fact that you prefer to hike but your MIL isn't in enough shape for that isn't a good excuse--he can find something else to do with her.  Also, not sure if you're trolling, but just because the other elderly people in your life are in good shape and don't have these issues, doesn't mean that your MIL will be too.  A lot of older people don't like travelling as they get older and prefer to stay close to home---you may have a lake house and a Caribbean getaway but it's not what MIL feels comfortable with now that she's aged.  I sincerely doubt that you're going to get an older woman to suddenly make lots of friends if she hasn't done so in prior years.

You can modify your interests to spend time with the people you love.  Let him figure out an activity he can do with her. SIL has his mom weekly.  He can at least go visit her monthly.  [/quote]

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