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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I closely know someone with a story like yours op, and in her case she has a predetermined idea of what the relationship with grandma should look like. Both she and her husband foster that kind of thinking in their kids.

Are you white you’re not setting up yourself and your daughter to some expectations about what grandma should be like?[/quote]

OP here. No, because I had pretty low expectations on my mom as a grandma (just because of how she was for me as a mom). I think some of the expectations from my DD are formed because she does see her being a good grandma to her cousin and sees a more typical relationship with her other grandma. I wouldn't say she's extremely close with her other grandma, but she does notice that her other grandma shows an interest in her. So I think it's kind of human nature to compare, especially when she can see my mom is capable of being a decent grandma to her other grandchild. [/quote]

You may have low expectations of grandma, but you may have high expectations of what a grandma should be like.

How often is your daughter around this grandma and the other cousins? Are the cousins chatty and tell a lot by themselves? Also, it can be that personality wise your daughter and grandma don’t mash as well as grandma does with the cousin.

You’re setting up your kid for a lot of disappointments counting beans   [/quote]

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