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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This isn't the same but I recently experienced something similar. I'm part of a group of women that get together for outings, book clubs, parties, lunches, etc. We are, by all accounts, a "normal" group of women, but one of them physically attacked another one at a party. It was bananas and shocking and there was a moment of reflection afterwards of how do we handle this?

As the weeks pressed on, it became obvious that you just can't "side" with someone who uses physical violence. So she was eventually ousted, both metaphorically and literally, from the group, who communicate through a private chat. She's persona non grata. At the end of the day, I can't look myself in the mirror if I go out to lunch and make nice with someone who put their hands on someone's neck and slammed their head into a table. YMMV. [/quote]

Good for you to not ignore and do something.

I recently experienced a similar situation where a neighbor came out and started screaming at me and pounding on the roof of my car. It was insane -- it had to do with a disagreement over plantings along a shared property boundary. Prior to this event we'd only exchanged a few terse emails on the issue. But he lost it and became violent and enraged. I stayed in the car with the doors locked and drove away as soon as I felt I could safely do (I was very upset).

It was witnessed by multiple neighbors but people don't want to "get involved" which means pretending it didn't happen. It's very frustrating. I feel unsafe when I'm around my house without my spouse right now which SUCKS and I feel like I don't have any community support even though I have behaved calmly and responsibly and he has seriously crossed a line.[/quote]

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