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[quote=Anonymous]I have an 18 year old daughter who just left for college a few weeks ago. It is now MY responsibility to develop my interests and hobbies and not rely on her for anything. I am not seeing that your DD is openly hostile or rude, just more like a typical teen who needs to pull away and become herself. Adolescence is truly difficult. She does not belong to you; she does not owe you anything other than basic politeness. This is what parenting is.

Please, if you sent that email to her, apologize and take it back. Tell her you were feeling emotional about her leaving and you love her. Check in with her weekly or so but don't expect anything in return. You made her. She's a separate person. If you want to keep the possibility of her returning to you in her mid to late 20s as many teens, esp. daughters will, just stay open to her and be there unconditionally.

I'm not sure you've embraced your role as the parent of a young adult fully. You are there as scaffolding and support. She needs to be independent and build her own relationships apart from her family.

Does she have friends? Is she happy at college? If so, congratulations, mama! You did your job well.[/quote]

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