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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was recently promoted to a senior management (but not c suite) role at my company after being in middle management for years. I have always worked hard (50+ hours per week) but had a pretty good work life balance and a flexible boss who never had an issue when I needed to prioritize kid stuff since he knew I would get my work done and be there when it counted.

It has only been 3 months in my new role but I am feeling pretty miserable and overwhelmed because it feels all consuming and my work/life balance has plummeted. Face time is a requirement in this role so I can’t really work from home more than once per week and I now need to be at the office by 8am for early meetings (vs 9am on my old team) so I am out the door by 7:15 and rarely get home before 7pm. Then I am with my kids for an hour and a half before I get back online for a couple hours before going to bed.

I feel like I am barely spending any time with my kids and so much is falling through the cracks because my job is so intense I often don’t have 5 mins to make a phone call or check my personal email during the day. I forgot to sign one of my kids up for an after school activity in time and the class all her friends are in filled up, I didn’t clearly read the school supply list for my oldest and forgot a ton of things. I am going to miss back to school nights due to work commitments and have zero bandwidth to be involved in the PTA or school like I have been in the past. I can no longer cook dinner for the kids (or eat with them) and feel like we are all not eating as healthy. And I have absolutely zero time to myself since I feel so guilty for being MIA all week I try to spend every second with them on weekends.

I could quit, but the challenge is that I actually enjoy what I do and got a big raise so the money is very helpful with 3 kids. My DH has a pretty big job too and works almost as much as I do, and we have an amazing nanny who handles a ton while the kids are in school (grocery shopping, returns, dry cleaning) as well as a housekeeper who keeps things in order.

Is anyone else in this boat? [b]How do you get over the guilt of not being around enough? And how do you decide if it’s all worth it?[/b]

Has anyone left a demanding job - do you wish you did it sooner or feel like it was a mistake?[/quote]

You don't.

It's not.

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