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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP here, forgot this one. My mom had been briefly hospitalized and when she returned home, she became fixated on how she needed a hospital bed. you know, one that raised up, etc, Literlaly brought it up maybe 20 times a day, how she needed it, her (new) bed was a 'death trap" etc, etc. So even though the bed was perfectly fine and only 6 months old or so, I buy her a hospital bed, mattress, we do all the crap you need to do to set it up. a few weeks later, she is complaining that I stole her favorite bed, why did she have this crazy bed, etc. She had no recollection of demanding one, and in fact was angry at me.

So its taken me a while, and I'm still learning, that just because she complains and cries, I do not have to try to solve the situation at that moment. I've been killing myself to address whatever it is, mental emotional or physical pain, only to have those efforts discounted and somethign else comes up. And there is never any recognition for all that I've done. [/quote]

I'm glad you realize this. It helps with the frustration.

What they are responding to is the feeling, not the logic of it. Whatever issue they fixate on is just something handy to explain the feelings of anger, lack of control, fear, whatever. So fixing it honestly almost never helps, because the feeling just move onto the next handy thing.[/quote]

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