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[quote=Anonymous]I have gone through spontaneous miscarriages and then D&Cs...and (as you have said) the more horrible decision to have to terminate a T18 pregnancy that was a result of IVF and a long and hard battle with infertility.

The latter was way more challenging.  Those sharing experiences regarding simple D&Cs for missed miscarriages are as unaware of the looming complications of 'termination' as I was.

First, there is a problem with health care coverage for a termination.  Check with your insurance company.  My OB was so apologetic when she realized AFTER the fact that my insurance wouldn't cover the procedure.  I think she 'ate' her fee.  I don't think I was ever billed.  I did have thousands of dollars in hospital fees to pay out of pocket.

Second, there is a problem with terminating a pregnancy that has progressed too far.  I was 'fortunate' (and that term is used very carelessly...as there is no fortunate aspect in this diagnosis) that the trisomy had greatly stunted the development of my little boy.  So the pregnancy appeared to be at 10 weeks, vs. 13 weeks.  In some cases you will have to go to a practitioner who will do terminations of more 'progressed' pregnancies.  My OB was well aware of the developmental level of our baby, and was able to do the procedure...but the practice had referrals on hand, to send me off to (I think GW) another practitioner, if it exceeded their capabilities.

Finally, make sure your 'team' of practitioners is completely on board and in line with your decision.  I know that this was a 'fluke' event in my care...but my anesthesiologist was opposed to providing care to someone terminating a pregnancy.  He told me just that as he informed me that he would not be providing me care that day.  THE WORST part of my care...and a hospital error beyond error...but, just something that happened.

Finally, get your whole team involved...My RE was calling me, so devastated by what happened...I knew that from all directions, I was being supported and counseled, and cared for in the best possible way.  And because my RE was so involved, I could go back into THAT office, and be treated humanely and with a tremendous amount of compassion for what I had gone through.

He was so up in arms about my insurance company refusing to pay, that HE was going to write letters and be aggressive in advocating for appropriate reimbursement for my care.  We told him it was OK, and we would just do what we had to do. (we knew the futility of the efforts).

Those are my experiences (reluctantly lived through)...with something so traumatic and terrible.

But there was a rainbow...Now, I have two beautiful, genetically typical 3 year olds that are mine and my husband's everything...our sunshine...

My wish for you-- is for you to be equally blessed with something so well deserved...[/quote]

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