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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op back. Thanks to those who offered ideas.  I do think DC has social anxiety, though it did not come up in the neuropsych's we have done. That is actually why I am asking for suggestions on therapists/consults to work through this. It does bother DC that he does not have friends.  He is active and likes to do things out and about. We have tried all the typical suggestions: encouraging him to ask other kids to do things (like, other nice kids, not the "popular" kids or whatever), getting involved in clubs, etc.  There is just something that makes him not be able to really break in and that is what we are trying to help with.

He is on a HS and club sports team that both take up a lot of time and though friendly with those kids, just hasn't been able to form friendships and in fact is a bit on the outside of the group there.  If you saw him at a game or on the halls of school you would not think this is an issue for him because he is always chatting and joking around with kids but that has not led to any actual friendships and leaves him isolated at home.

I will check out the therapist recs PPs suggested.[/quote]

This is very helpful. You said "he is always chatting and joking around with kids" and he is in a club sport, etc so he is engaged. Does he have people to sit with at lunch? It sounds like he feels upset about this because he is "isolated at home." Does he have a lot of free time on weekends even with studying/keeping up with school work?

My kids do some sports and clubs and have friends (daughter has close friends, son has less close friends, but feels connected) and both of them prefer not to hang out with friends on weekends-just over breaks. My daughter texts a lot with friends, can't stand when her friends want to make Tiktok videos or stalk boys on social media so she prefers not to see them unless that often outside of school. My son needs down time to decompress and and they both have a lot of studying to do on the weekend. So, it sound like my kids are like you son is some ways, except they don't prefer not to see friends on weekends.

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Sorry I am multitasking and realize my sentences don't make sense. My point is, your son seems to crave more social interaction on weekends so it upsets him, but he is engaged. Does he text classmates at all of do the whole group videogame thing? (I don't let my kids do it, but I know some of my son's friends enjoy gaming together).

Also, as people have mentioned in other threads, but about a teen-friendly job or volunteer work on weekends if he has the free time and feels lonely. Even if he doesn't become close friends with any of then, it's more interaction and a feeling of accomplishment.[/quote]

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