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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He should get an on campus job.  It's another good way to meet people and be social.[/quote]

This is a great suggestion, but most campus jobs require you to be on financial aid.[/quote]

IME, with a kid at big state U, they are begging for people to work dining services. Anyone can get a job there. Yes, more desirable office type jobs likely go to work-study students. But my non-work-study kid got a TA job in 2nd semester sophomore year from doing well in a class and having a good relationship with the professor.

It sounds like he's got the start of some good things -- running club, a few friends, a good relationship with a professor. That's great! I would not encourage transfer at this point where he'd be back to starting from scratch. I'd say...

1. He needs to see a counselor for the depression.
2. Get a job so he has one more place to consistently get to know people and something that gets him out of his room
3. Try out other groups with an aim of being active in at least one other thing. If he liked the idea of a fraternity one thing to look into is some colleges have a coed service "fraternity", Alpha Phi Omega that might be a fit.
4. Encourage him to watch Harlan Cohen on YouTube. He talks a lot about the realities of how difficult the social stuff can be in college with practical advice on dealing with it https://youtube.com/@helpmeharlan

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