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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are putting too much into this. Calm down. Talk about some parameters with your kid, look them up in Naviance and see if GPA/SAT matches with the school and budget. [/quote]

I have. Favorites are very expensive. We don't qualify for financial aid. Yes, we have savings. We can afford to pay "some" money, but not 90k a year. And even less seems foolish because it will impact our ability to help dcs as adults.[/quote]

I understand your anxiety completely. I’m probably more involved than I should be and trying to step away now. It’s hard but important. I focused on helping DD build her balanced list of schools, using our budget, her stats, and preferences regarding major, location, and size. I helped her stay on track this summer getting essay drafts done so this fall won’t be too stressful for her. We used CollegeVine and Naviance for this.

DD knows she needs to go to an instate school or get significant merit aid, which limits options. We have a set budget so we’re focused on schools with high value and ROI (I really liked the Forbes list). I think the more narrow your parameters, the less stressful it is honestly. People underestimate the tyranny of choice. DD will apply to no more than 8 schools - 2 reaches (20-30% chance), 4 targets (30-75% chance), and 2 safeties (more than 75% chance).

You can help provide this guidance, support, and then step away and trust that this process is an important way for your senior to figure out who they are and want to be. Keep the door open but try not to own the process. I know that’s easier said than done for most of us, especially when financial resources are finite.

Good luck and try to find something to occupy your time. I started gardening.[/quote]

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