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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you all for the reality check.  I will calm it down and reply as suggested.

I think I'm just frustrated because I have so many balls in the air and daily obligations (as most of us parents do) and it felt like my friend was overstepping.

Thank you all![/quote]

How was she overstepping? She asked and SHE ASKED YOU!   It seems that you are upset that she only offered $10/hr. 
I can't help but wonder if she had offered $20/hr for your time and gas, you would be perfectly fine.  If your friend visits DCUM, you needn't worry because she will know what a jerk you are and retreat from you forever.[/quote]

Yeah, no. This isn't true no matter how many times you post.

The people who always think "I'm just asking, you can say no" are the epitome of jerkiness. It puts the burden of refusal and its associated social pressure squarely on the other person, which is unfair and leads to justifiable resentment. Those people have no trouble saying no themselves when asked for favors, since they're not socially aware and therefore insensitive to the social pressure of being pleasant and helpful.

I have lived this. My husband is one of those people who asks for ridiculous favors, and thinks that's fine because "people can always say no". He is incapable of putting himself in other people's shoes, and never thinks of the burden on others.

Don't be like that. Unsurprisingly, he has no friends, and I'm trying to find a way to leave.
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