Reply to Senior Living -- More Expensive, More Rules??

Forum Index » Eldercare

Reply to "Senior Living -- More Expensive, More Rules??"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I[b] seem to have unintentionally led people to believe he’s in the brink of bankruptcy. He has money now. About a half million. [/b]If he lives another 10 years like others in his family, things could become an issue especially if he has to move into assisted living (due to failing eyesight and other physical issues). He has good healthcare from his wife’s former employer (a community college the belonged to the public system). [b]He has a small pension. [/b]

Right now, he wants an independent senior living place. The only thing his current doesn’t have is a pool. It has a library, a movie theater, on-site social and entertainment events, a large dining room, a hair salon, a can to take you to appointments within a 10 mile radius (his docs are all in this radius), covered parking for his car (!), free grocery delivery to the facility (he has to pay extra for room delivery, I think), etc. He just doesn’t like all the rules.

He doesn’t like that the assistants he hires are for scheduled times. For example, he had surgery soon after moving into the place. I got him set up with folks who provided help with getting out of bed and dressing. He was pissed that the cane at set times for like 15 minutes. His argument? Sometimes he wants to get up earlier or later. He hates having set times for meals and assistances. I and the “helping hands organization told him he could hire someone to be on call but that means paying for someone for their time whether he used them or not. That did not go over well with him. The list of gripes goes on and on.

I think he just hasn’t reconciled himself with the fact that the rules are how senior living works. Going to a more expensive place won’t help him avoid schedules and dressing in something other than Pjs in public.

Thanks for the inputs and allowing me to vent a bit. [/quote]

I'm a pp that said my Dad has moved facilities multiple times without a co-signer.

I'm sorry, OP, but 1/2 million in this context is not a lot of money.   My Dad has about $2 million.  Between his pension and social security he takes in a little over $6k/month, and the facilities he's been living in are just under $6k/month (these facilities include all food, housing, transportation, activities--basically all expenses except personal things like toothpaste and clothing.)
You don't say how much your uncle's pension is, but if his monthly guaranteed income (pension + social security) is less than the cost of the facility, I can see why they are requiring a co-signer.

Also, since your uncle sounds similar to my Dad,  be on the lookout for your uncle to fall prey to scams.   It's been a huge issue with my Dad-about 2 years ago I posted about my Dad donating nearly $100,000 to various politicians through ACT BLUE.    It wasn't one big donation, it was literally thousands of small donations (most were between $5-25) over the course of four months, and we (his adult kids) didn't find out until all that money was gone.

Then, two weeks ago he was scammed out of another $31k.   Some message popped up on his computer saying his identity had been stolen and to call a number.   Long story short, within 4 days a scammer was able to convince him that his social security number had been used to open accounts used in drug trafficking and child sex abuse rings.  The "agent" (scammer) told my dad that to get his social security number changed he would need to pay.   He told my dad to withdraw $31k in cash from his bank account and wait out front of his senior living facility.   A black BMW (with windows so tinted that my dad could not see the driver) pulled up and rolled down a back window.  My dad put the bag of cash in the backseat through the window, and the car pulled away.    It was that simple.    After we found out about this we asked his senior living facility if they had any security video footage, but apparently the scammer knew exactly where the cameras were located and this all took place out of camera view.

I hope nothing like that happens to your uncle, and I really think you should see a lawyer about your responsibilities and obligations in this situation.[/quote]

I agree that half a million isn’t a lot. That’s why I’m a bit freaked out. We had another relative whose money drained quickly as the faculty moved him between assisted living and memory care.

That’s said, he has more than many people his age.

Today he is fine. It’s tomorrow that concerns me.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics