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[quote=Anonymous]It’s sad that it’s all become so sexualized and dangerous in the age of the internet.

If I had to guess, I’d agree that the counselor is trying to distance himself but doesn’t know how without hurting the kid.

I would send him some version of the email that somebody posted on the first page, but keep the police and threats out of it. Have some compassion for this kid who is trying hard not to cross a line. But I do think it’s worth including the part, kindly, that most schools, camps, and teams discourage extensive online communication between staff and students because it’s not a zone that’s free from bad actors.

I would also talk to your daughter, but not make a huge deal and don’t indicate that you think she has a crush on him. If you blow it out of proportion, you might weaken her trust. But I would say hey, I noticed you’re writing a bunch of so-and-so; just so you know,  adult figures are told not to correspond extensively  with students by email because that’s where some boundary crossing happens.

You could also ask her if she’s heard what warning signs to look for and when to shut things down or ask an adult for advice. You can add that most people are kind and trustworthy, but it’s just like looking both ways before crossing the street: you do it because sometimes people are not trustworthy and are not looking out for you.

I think if you handle this well, this can be an opportunity to show faith in your daughters judgment, and be a part of her learning about online connections. [/quote]

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