Reply to My sister told me I am not allowed to grieve our father in her house around her baby

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "My sister told me I am not allowed to grieve our father in her house around her baby"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]Your sister is in a vulnerable position. Sounds like your dad died when she had a 4 month old. So she has been dealing with grief + new infant. She may have gotten to a place of self protection to get through the day and is worried about a grief spiral setting her back. It may not even be about anything you’ve done thus far, but she knows you and your mom are very sad still. Your original nuclear family getting together without him could exacerbate that grief so she is trying to be proactive (although in a somewhat clunky way). If I were her I would have made it more about me (as I can’t talk about it because I need to focus on new motherhood) than dictate what others do around me.

That said, maybe get together separately with your mom first so you can ride that initial wave of grief together. Then go be strong for your sister and niece. I think most fathers would want their wife/children/grandchildren to continue to make happy memories once they are gone, so maybe look at it as honoring the family he helped build. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics