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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is hard!

What I did was hire an elder care advisor, usually a social worker, who knew so much more than I did.
She could check the apartment and saw things that weren’t safe, such as slippery bathroom floor mats. Easy fix.

I could call her when I didn’t know what to do.

This ended up costing a total of $1000.  Today, it would be higher.

Yes, there were times I lost sleep over elder care. Yes, there were hospitalizations.  Yes, I returned early from an international trip once.

At the end, my mom was lucky enough to die in her sleep at 96.[/quote]

This would be money well spent.  You would really benefit from sharing the load and having someone who understands how things work.

They can also be an advocate.  The Assisted Living will also give your father way better treatment if they know a social worker is checking on him.  Because, while it was a huge relief to have my mother moved to Assisted Living (we, too, should have skipped Independent Living), it was by no means a guarantee of 100% perfect care.  It just dials down a lot of the worry, but it doesn’t solve everything. [/quote]

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