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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DS is inattentive ADHD and SPD. Middle kid with two sisters he's close to. Very sweet and loving but also extremely physical (little boy energy plus the SPD, constantly pushing, jumping etc). We're desperate for him to find a sport he likes to channel that energy and boost his confidence as he is hard on himself and very anxious about failure. Every attempt has been a disaster. He won't leave our side, cries and clings to us. Drop off activities have been better but there aren't many yet.

Any tips for a kid like this? He doesn't need to be good at anything we just want to help him with his self confidence but he won't try. We've tried swimming, soccer, gymnastics and t ball, all the same experience. [/quote]

I think you need to learn a lot more about special needs. Kids do well if they can. There's no "he won't try". You need to try harder to find the right fit teacher and setting for him. 1:1 swimming is good and important, maybe you need a more low-pressure instructor or you should just get in the pool and play with him yourself.

I think you are expecting WAY too much, given his profile, that he be on a mainstream sports team at age 4. Social skills are really really important in team sports-- reading body language and predicting how others will move and what they will do are social skills. And then there's inattentiveness, which is also a huge problem in a sport like t ball where you're supposed to patiently wait for the batter to hit, without getting distracted. And then the SPD also makes it harder for him. A team sport is great as a goal but as an expectation in the present, it isn't realistic and that's why you're not having success.[/quote]

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