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[quote=Anonymous]OP, the first thing to go is short term memory, as you are seeing. She may have already been to a doctor, but she does not remember. Do not assume the son is neglectful. That said, he could be in denial or your aunt may far more difficult and combative with him and he cannot convince her to go.

When you mention it, I like the idea suggested to assume he already knows and you just want to share what you have seen. He may become defensive or discount what you say, just do your part.

Also, a lot of people don't understand that few parents willingly get evaluated and one symptom can be lack of self-awareness. Also, the screeners stink. If she has passed a screen or won't get one, she gets to be considered competent until proven otherwise. None of us can wave a magic wand and force out parents to get full evaluations or the proper supports in place. It can be a grueling ordeal if parent is difficult. Even if she was delightful for you, she may be totally different for her own children.

Also, be careful if she is trying to offer you an inheritance and that is why she asks about your mom. My cousin is telling my mom sob stories to get an inheritance. Mom blocked me from medical info because I was pushing her to get evaluated for dementia. My sister gets handouts and convinced her to block me. At the same time, if mom gives my cousin an inheritance my sister will take legal action and accuse her of elder-abuse according to my brother.[/quote]

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