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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For a high schooler? You can give them advice but absent developmental delays, they probably need to make the final decision themselves.

I was like that and still thrive the busier I am. I did hit an overachiever wall in college, though, in trying to take more than the recommended number of courses frosh year including organic chemistry and high level physics and a few other classes. But I bounced back next semester with a smaller course load and one retake. I don't think anyone could have convinced me not to do it.

You might feel reassured reading "the self driven child."[/quote]

Thanks for your perspective.  I get what you are saying - but isn’t it a little too early to go with “you’re an adult now” for a freshman in HS? [/quote]

That's why you talk it through with him to see the different perspectives. Hold his hand, but let him make the ultimate call within reasonable parameters of what you're willing to put in, like whether there are costs involved with the sports or if they need a parent to drive. It may indeed be too much, but it's better if he comes to that realization himself.

That may involve asking if he can share with you a plan and show you the schedules on a calendar. Once he lays out the sports dates, he may see that they overlap and can't all work with each other or with a job. You can teach him other decision making techniques like a pro/con chart. You also can talk about family values that may come into play, like the importance of keeping a commitment (if you have to miss x practices and games, are you being fair to your coach and teammates?) and a healthy lifestyle (where is sleep fitting into the schedule? What about healthy meals and time to spend with family and friends?).

He may overshoot, but it's a good lesson to try to manage time and set personal boundaries and goals.[/quote]

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