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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You sound as if it's fine for a child to get preferential treatment in exchange for their parent helping out at school. It's not.

I was on the board of my kids' school PTA for many years, and was in the building a lot, organizing and helping out with various events.
My kids did not receive preferential treatment, I did not ask for special placement or favors. That would have been ethically wrong.

However, working with the administration, teachers and staff allows parents to understand what it is that a school can and cannot do. Resources are limited. They should be directed to the neediest cases first. Knowing how a school works allows parents to understand what to ask for if their kid really needs help: who to contact, what are reasonable accommodations, and how long it might be until the issue is addressed. It keeps parents realistic, instead of fuming that something doesn't get fixed instantly.

Conversely, if the administration and teachers see you genuinely helping (instead of creating more nonsense busywork some PTA parents dream up!), and if your kid really does develop a problem, they will be more inclined to believe you, because a measure of trust has been established. I see this most often with parents of kids with special needs, some of whom  volunteer so they can observe their child in the classroom, and understand how to make available services and accommodations work for their kid. Teachers see these parents doing their best, and skip the notion that bad parenting is at the root of their kid's behavioral issues.

But procotols and procedures still need to be followed, and parents cannot demand something outside of the rulebook.

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Great post above.  My PTA helping and other school volunteering gave me info, helped me understand how to guide my child, [b]and gave me credibility when my kid had social problems with other kids at aftercare and recess.[/b]  I didn't expect or receive perks.

If the principal attends PTA, going to PTA meetings...no matter whether you enjoy it, it seems cliquey to you, etc...gives you a good opportunity to bring issues forward and figure out whether the school is on track.  In my district, all PTAs meet during the evening, so working parents can participate.

I have been a PTA member K-12.  There are only a few active members involved.  It hasn't been a source of "mom friends" but it has given me more of a sense of community involvement which I value.

PTAs often come across as cliquey but that is often just a bond formed by people who get used to putting on fun events with insufficient volunteer staffing.  And general social awkwardness.  Gen X did not get raised like the "Hostess with the Mostess" Boomers.  And Millennials around me are even less interested in volunteering.  If you have your own friends (not necessarily elementary parents) and can pull off organizing an event, you will quickly get incorporated into the core.  And don't be upset to keep reintroducing yourself...most only see each other once a month.

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This is a good way to put it, and exactly what I have noticed. It's not about perks.  But if you are active in the school, it helps you get heard/action taken for the things that all parents really should be listened to about in the first place.  [/quote]

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