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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, i think kids can grow apart.

My kids are ones who think fondly of their childhood friends so I have taken them to some group gatherings that happened recently only to have the other teens on their phones the whole time texting and snappng with their actual friends.

I didn't expect them to be best friends but I thought they could at least exchange a few words to show interest in someone they used to be close to.

I told my kids after that experience that they didn't have to come any more to these gatherings.
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What is your definition of "growing apart?" In my experience friendships have only dissolved for a major reason.[/quote]

NP -- this definitely doesn't apply to childhood friendships unless you are talking about very close best friends. The vast majority of childhood friendships kind of come and go based on interests and whether you're in the same class or homeroom or whatever.

And this was true when I was a kid too. I had a friend group of three other friends all through middle school and I spent most of my free time at school and after school with those three girls. Then in high school two of them went out for cross country and track and one of them decided to attend a magnet art high school and I did theater and speech and debate. We literally never hung out as a foursome again. But there were zero bad feelings and in fact a few years ago we got back in touch via Instagram in part because two of us were pregnant at the same time and now we occasionally text or share memes via a group chat. I really like them as people but our lives just went in different directions and we stopped hanging out. No falling out.

Same thing for my kids. Friendship in childhood usually requires both commonality and proximity and sometimes you lose one or both of those things and you drift apart.[/quote]

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