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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1000% wrong for this dean no question.

However, it also struck me as sad that this student's perception of the relationship was another manipulation by her parents to reframe what had included positive experiences into one that was labeled as only manipulation and abuse. I wish her parents had handled her own mental health better in this situation. There were ways to identify the Dean's action as fully inappropriate behavior (thus there is school policy against it) without leading Haas to being fully embarrassed and led to reframe the relationship so that she now feels that nothing was real and it was all manipulation and abuse. It sounds to me like they both genuinely had feelings. Sure, they both need to come to terms with it and the Dean is responsible for acting on those feelings and for all of the pain it caused the student.  But, parents were rightfully upset and it was right for the Dean to be fired and held accountable....so I can understand their actions too.

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I'm saying I feel bad for Haas also because her parents took no care in their response to consider how their view of this relationship would damage her psyche. Haas was not feeling harmed or used when she ended the relationship.  She ended it because she had moved onto another relationship.[/quote]

50-2500 years ago, this was a normal sort of relationship, and (for heterosexuals) often led to marriage.

It's only frowned upon now because of the potential for abuse of power, like a DUI where there was no car crash this time.

JLH is wrong for that reason. (Use Tinder or a bar like a normal person).

[b]Haas is only wrong[/b] for using the scandal to promote herself and her bad writing.

Sexual relations between adults and teens (and sometimes children) have the same problem. It's wrong, but the youth gets victimized further because the anger at the adult creates the astigmatic situation where everyone has to show how deeply damaged the youth is, to justify punishing the adult more. So the youth is told how horrible it was and how disgusting it was and how broken they are, and how their own feelings are wrong, to feed the bloodlust of the onlookers. [/quote]

Up to now - you are the only one saying Haas is wrong for anything in this. [/quote]

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