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[quote=Anonymous]OP, in addition to school or public place pick up/drop off, you need to move to parallel parenting. Co-parenting is too much contact if there is an abusive parent. Use a system like family wizard to share info - calendar, expenses, pick up/drop off. Communicate by email and text only and preserve everything that was written.

Your kids should have a therapist for themselves. You should have one for yourself.

You can tell your kids clearly that it is not OK for adults to yell at each or speak meanly to each other, and that when Daddy does that it is OK for you to walk away from it. This is part of learning to regulate your emotions - everyone has to learn to do it. It is never OK to yell at someone, make fun of or belittle them or grab, hit or hurt someone.  You can educate your kids about abuse by pointing it out in the environment around you and you don't have to name that Dad is doing it. You can simply say, "Dad was yelling at me. It's not OK to yell at people ever, so I walked away from him. Maybe we can talk when he calms himself down.

The worst thing you can do is pretend like the abuse isn't happening. This sends the aignal that yoh think it's normal.

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