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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]“We’d love to actually spend some quality time with you guys when you come to stay. I can make some reservations! How about dinner on Thursday and brunch on Saturday?”[/quote]

Ah, this method I actually have tried each time they have come! The response is something like “I’m not sure. We might have plans.” And then they inevitably have plans.

Part of my frustration is that I think anyone would see these repeated offers as a hint, but she might just be oblivious as others have mentioned, but since I am uncomfortable confronting her in a more direct manner it creates a tense dynamic for me whenever she broaches the subject.

Sooner or later I will have to be more direct though. This summer she invited herself to the beach again, but this time with their new dog. We are actually not going to the beach this summer so it was an easy no, but she must be truly oblivious because my DH is allergic to dogs (which she knows) but it clearly hasn’t occurred to her and she didn’t even ask if we would be ok with it. She presented it like “we would love to come to X with dog. When are you going?” This will inevitably come up again next summer.

Reading through these responses is helpful - thank you [/quote]

I posted the suggestion you quoted - ugh, sorry she sucks. Do you think she would be like this to her friends too, or are you in a different category because you’re family? Just keep saying no, and when you’re comfortable, you can mention that you’ve significantly decreased the amount you’re hosting, especially since you’ve noticed a few people are just treating your house like free lodging and they aren’t really visiting with you.
It doesn’t matter that your DH is allergic to dogs, even though that would be more than enough reason why her dog should never be allowed in your beach house, because you don’t owe her a justification as to why you can’t host her! I hope you see that. Good luck![/quote]

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