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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 16yo ds is so moody: a lot of mornings he is sulking, lost something, grumpy about something. He has chatty, sweet moments maybe 10% of the time, does tell us a lot about his life at dinner or randomly, but the rest of the time he mostly wants to be in his room or has a bad attitude and is silent. He has a very good social life, lots of friends through sports, school, works, good student, other parents really like him...But with us he is really tough, borderline rude, contrary, selfish, even worse with dh than with me. Is it still normal? Did your ds get any better?[/quote]

Do you talk to him about it? Not in the moment but more generally?

My 15 year old was like that all yesterday. Not outright antagonistic but a total grump, even as I spent the day running around doing things for him. At the end of the day I gently said something to him, basically pointing out that he had been pretty rude all day and how it impacted me. He gave a cursory ‘sorry’ at the time.

This morning he had to get up for something supper early. I came downstairs to check that he was up, got a typical grunt answer (which honestly didn’t even register as rude to me since it was 5am and I’m not a ball of sunshine then either) then I went back to bed. Ten minutes later he was in my bedroom apologizing for having been rude.

All that to say I think it’s totally normal for teenage boys to be giant grumps but there definitely is some part of them that is listening and reflecting on their behavior - especially if you’re not accusatory or super confrontational about it.It left me feeling all warm and fuzzy that one day he’ll emerge on the other side as a sweet caring man.[/quote]

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