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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am slowly taking over my mom’s affairs (Alzheimer’s) and wondering how much of this stuff can I start doing now? What are the things you find yourself needing to do? I’m the executor of her estate and have full poa now. She doesn’t have a cell phone anymore. Moved into assisted living and downsized (I took care of that over two summers) … but I imagine there are a to. If things that pop up.[/quote]

as my parents were in the early stages of dementia: getting most bills documented and set up for auto-pay. getting the poa on record at the bank(s). accessing/closing any safe deposit boxes and extraneous accounts. if there is any chance of them needing medicaid, getting 5 years of statements from each financial account. if you will need to represent your parents interests at social security (especially if the living parent is entitled to a former spouses higher payment), applying to be a representative payee and setting up a new bank account in both your names. if you've already downsized and dealt with any real estate that is a huge load lifted.

finding wills, poas, birth certificates, passports, drivers license/id. given that at some point they will not be able to go in person, making sure that passports are renewed for any ID purposes is good.

deciding in advance on any funeral arrangements, or finding out if any have been made. this helps because frequently you will have to call a funeral home at 1 in the morning, which is not the time to be doing price comparing.

(i went with direct cremation, which runs around $1500-2000. a funeral service w/temporary coffin could run $5000-15000, and obviously has more time constraints.)

assisted living can help you decide when hospice might be best to be brought in. if your parent is a hospice patient, hospice will send someone out to certify the death, which is recorded as of when hospice views the body. if they pass late in the evening, the official date and time will likely be the next day. if they are not a hospice patient, then usually you must call the police to certify the death, and the funeral home is then called. if your loved one passes at a hospital there is sometimes less for you to manage. [/quote]

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